“Don’t tell me what was said about me... Tell me why they were so comfortable to say it to you”

Simplified Meaning:

If someone tells you that others have been gossiping about you, it’s important to think about why they felt it was okay to share those negative things with that particular person. This means considering the relationship or trust between them and why they might have felt at ease to talk freely. For instance, imagine you have a friend who comes to you and says, "Some people were saying bad things about you." Instead of focusing just on the mean comments, think about why those people felt it was safe to say them to your friend. Maybe your friend didn’t defend you, or perhaps they even agreed with the negative talk. This can help you understand how trustworthy your friend is and whether they truly have your back. By realizing this, you can decide if you need to talk to your friend about their role in the conversation or if you should be more careful about sharing personal information with them. It teaches you to pay attention to people’s actions and how they might affect your relationships.