"像对待你爱的人那样与自己对话"
— Brene Brown
Simplified Meaning:
Imagine you are speaking to your best friend. You are kind, supportive, and encouraging because you care about them. Now, think about how you talk to yourself. Often, we are much harsher and more critical with ourselves than we would ever be with someone we care about. For instance, if your friend made a mistake at work, you’d probably tell them, “It’s okay, everyone makes mistakes. You’ll do better next time.” This is supportive and understanding. However, if you made a mistake, you might tell yourself, “I’m so stupid. I can’t do anything right,” which is very negative and unkind. The idea here is to treat yourself with the same compassion and encouragement as you would extend to a loved one. Be gentle and give yourself positive reinforcement. When you make a mistake, remind yourself it’s part of being human and focus on what you can learn from it instead of beating yourself up. Practicing this can make you feel happier and more confident.