Esther Perel Quotes
"Erotic intimacy is about connection, not consumption.""Eroticism requires separateness; it is a space where you can be yourself without losing yourself.""Our work as partners is to stand witness to the struggles and successes of our loved ones.""The amount of erotic desire we feel has less to do with models of attractiveness and more to do with how willing we are to take risks.""Intimacy is not something you have; it's something you do.""Erotic aliveness requires active engagement and the courage to let go.""When we seek the gaze of another, it isn’t always our partner we are turning to—it’s the other in ourselves.""In desire, we experience a paradox: we seek the other in order to find ourselves.""To love is to have experienced the profound mutuality of others.""Desire is rooted in the unexpected and the unknown.""Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity.""Many of us live in an economy of scarcity, where we believe there is not enough to go around and that it is our duty to struggle.""Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who you are.""The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.""For many, the weight of the past is not what was but rather what wasn’t.""When intimacy collapses into fusion, it is not a lack of closeness but too much closeness that impedes desire.""We seek the reassurance of love, but crave the excitement of desire.""Uncertainty keeps desire alive.""Erotic intelligence thrives on the unpredictable and the unknown.""Your first marriage is to your parents, and it’s the shortest of all marriages."
