“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude.”
— Rainer Maria Rilke
Simplified Meaning:
Marriage isn't about making two people exactly the same or removing all differences between them. Instead, a strong marriage allows each person to keep their individuality while relying on each other for support and understanding. Picture two trees growing side by side; they each have their own roots and branches, but their roots are intertwined. They support each other and grow stronger together without losing their unique characteristics. For example, imagine a couple where one partner loves painting while the other enjoys running marathons. In a good marriage, they encourage each other's passions and give each other the space to pursue them. They respect each other's time alone and see it as important for personal growth. This way, they both grow as individuals and as partners, strengthening their bond without losing who they are. So, in a relationship, it’s important to support your partner’s need for personal time and growth, and this mutual respect helps build a healthier, more resilient partnership.