“Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy”
— Wayne Dyer
Simplified Meaning:
Sometimes we think that other people or things are the reason we're upset, but actually, it's our own thoughts and reactions that make us feel this way. For example, if a friend forgets your birthday, you might feel hurt and think that your friend made you unhappy. However, it's your own feelings of disappointment and the way you interpret the situation that cause the sadness. Instead, if you realize that everyone can make mistakes and maybe your friend just forgot, you might feel less hurt. Understanding this gives you more control over your emotions because you can choose how to react to different situations rather than letting them control how you feel. In everyday life, try to notice how your own responses affect your mood, and practice looking at things more calmly and positively.